JOYCE MEYER STORY (LIFE BEYOND ABUSED)

LIFE BEYOND ABUSE

I was sexually, mentally, emotionally and verbally abused by my father as far back as I can remember until I left home at the age of eighteen. He did many terrible things…some which are too distasteful for me to talk about publicly. But I want to share my testimony because so many people have been hurt, and they need to realize that someone has made it through their struggles so they can have hope.

More than anything, I want you to know and really understand that anyone who has been abused can fully recover if they will give their life completely to Jesus.

What Does “Abuse” Mean?

Abuse is defined as “to be misused, used improperly or to be wasted; to use in such a way as to cause harm or damage; to be treated cruelly.” Any time we are misused or used for a purpose other than what God intended, it’s damaging. And I realize many people can relate to this. For some of you reading this article, I’m just telling your story. You know what it’s like to live with a terrible, shameful secret that is eating you alive.

My father was a mean, controlling and manipulative person for most of his life. He was unpredictable and unstable. As a result, the atmosphere of our home was super-charged with fear because you never knew if what you did would make him mad or not.

We always did what he wanted to do, when he wanted to do it. We watched what he wanted to watch on TV, went to bed when he went to bed, got up when he got up, and ate the meals he wanted us to eat…everything in our home was determined by his moods and what he wanted.

The sexual abuse started when I was very young, and when he decided I was mature enough, he took things even further. From this point until I was eighteen, he raped me at least once a week. My father, whom I was supposed to be able to trust and who was supposed to keep me safe, was the person I came to fear the most.

Feelings of Shame and Loneliness

I was so profoundly ashamed because of this. I was ashamed of me, and I was ashamed of my father and what he did. I was also constantly afraid. There was no place I ever felt safe growing up. I don’t think we can even begin to imagine what kind of damage this does to a child.

At school I pretended I had a normal life, but I felt lonely all the time and different from everyone else. I never felt like I fit in, and I wasn’t allowed to participate in after-school activities, go to sports events or parties or date boys. Many times I had to make up stories about why I couldn’t do anything with my classmates. For so long I lived with pretense and lies.

What I learned about love was actually perversion. My father told me what he did to me was special and because he loved me. He said everything he did was good, but it had to be our secret because no one else would understand and it would cause problems in the family. It became my burden not to let my pain cause problems in our family. And as long as   I kept this secret, I couldn’t get free from the pain of it.

You may be wondering, Joyce, where was God in all of this? He was there. He didn’t get me out of the situation when I was a child, but He did give me the strength to get through it. It’s true my father abused me and didn’t love and protect me the way he should have, and at times it seemed no one would ever help me and it would never end.

But God always had a plan for my life, and He has redeemed me. He has taken what Satan meant for harm and turned it into something good (see Romans 8:28). He has taken away my shame and given me a double reward and recompense (see Isaiah 61:7).

God Can Heal and Restore You

It may seem impossible, but God’s truth has set me free from a life of pretense and lies and has restored my soul. I am living proof that nothing is too hard for God. And no matter what you’ve been through or how bad you hurt, there is hope!

That’s why I’m telling my story. You need to know how good God is and that your struggle is worth it. If you will give your life to Christ and really trust God, you can be completely healed and restored so you can live the life Jesus died for you to have. Don’t give up.

All thanks to a mentor and a teacher , if you have CHRIST, you have ALL.

Please report a case of child abuse, cruelty, and neglect, every child has a right to be HAPPY no matter what.

HAPPY CHILD, HEALTHY CHILD 

OPRAH WINFREY STORY

Oprah: I was raped when I was only 9

By Jenny Johnson

Behind Oprah Winfrey’s €2bn net worth are stories of pain, struggle, and  eventually triumph.

The media mogul recounted her own experiences with abuse, which included being raped at the age of nine, during an appearance at Ball State University, Indiana, part of a lecture series fellow chat show host David Letterman sponsors at his alma mater.

“Anybody who has been verbally abused or physically abused will spend a great deal of their life rebuilding their esteem,” Winfrey said in front of 3,000 students.

She recounted being physically beaten as a child, saying it was a cultural experience many African- American children went through. She also said was raped and molested.

“You’re an extraordinary person who lived through hell,” said Letterman.

“You were not consumed, you prevailed.”

Winfrey talked about some of the positive aspects of her life: How she learned to read before she was three, how she wished to be Diana Ross, and how she skipped school because she wrote a note to her teacher.

Description of her happy times didn’t last, though.

“I grew up in an environment where children were seen and not heard,” she said.

Letterman asked her to clarify: “You were struck.”

“Oh, I was beaten regularly.”

One such beating, she said, stuck out in vividly in her mind.

“I went to a well to get some water and carry it in a bucket. And I was playing in the water with my fingers, and my grandmother had seen me out the window and she didn’t like it.

“She whipped me so badly that I had welts on my back and the welts would bleed. And then when I put on my Sunday dress, I was bleeding from the welts. And then she was very upset with me because I got blood on the dress.

“So then I got another whipping for getting blood on the dress,” she said.

The Ball State Daily News reports that Letterman took Winfrey through each city she lived in throughout her childhood. At every turn, one story of pain after another thickened the air with emotion.

At 6, Winfrey left her grandmother to live with her mother. While there, the woman in charge of keeping the house forced Winfrey to sleep on the porch. At 9, she was raped.

“He took me to an ice cream shop — blood still running down my leg — and bought me ice cream.”

Winfrey was sexually abused from the ages of 10 to 14, when she found out she was pregnant. It was around this time that her mother took her to a detention home. Too many girls were housed in the home, so Winfrey couldn’t stay. “My mother said, ‘you are getting your ass out of this house’,” she said.

So she went to live with her father, who forbade her from dating, having sex or any deviant activity. He didn’t know she was pregnant when she moved in.

Two weeks after she had the child, it died. It was painful, she said, but both Winfrey and her father saw this as a second chance.

It wasn’t until she was in an acting workshop this summer that her emotions about the situation surfaced again.

“I buried all of my feelings about it.

“I really felt like that baby’s life — that baby coming into the world — really gave me new life. That’s how I processed it for myself.”

Even after she escaped her troubled childhood, Winfrey still faced struggles. When she went to Chicago, her supervisors said they had no chance to compete against talk show host Phil Donahue, whom she would eventually take over in ratings.

Through all of the pain and struggle, Winfrey triumphed. She was thankful, she said, for everything that had happened. “I would take nothing from my journey.

“Everybody’s looking for the same thing,” she said, that sense of ‘was I okay?’ That means, do you hear me and is what I’m saying important to you.’ Everyone is looking for that validation.

“I know what it feels like to not be wanted ... you can use it as a stepping stone to build great empathy for people.”

Winfrey remained humble when Letterman told her he was impressed with her life. “You understand that this is stunning,” he said. “Your human existence is stunning.”

“I never thought of my life as stunning,” she replied. “It’s just my life.”

Letterman didn’t accept her answer, though.

“Most people would use this life as an excuse,” he said. “You were not consumed; you prevailed.”

“I really did believe there was a power greater than myself...” she said, adding that there was nothing in her life that she would ever take back. “Everybody has a story and your story is as equally as valuable and important as my story.

“My story just helped define and shape me as does everybody’s story.”

The queen of talk also shared her biggest regret with The Oprah Winfrey Show. “The one thing I most regret is I wasn’t able to move the needle far enough on abuse in this country,” she said.

She explained that too many people still don’t understand sexual abuse is not just about the act of abuse, but about the misuse of trust and shame that follow.

Never be ashamed of a scar, it simply means you were stronger than you ever tried to hurt you.

Stay strong. 

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Recent happen on Child Abuse and Neglect

Read How Herbalist Killed 13-yr-old While Testing Anti-bullets Charm In Enugu

There were tension, yesterday, when a 26-year-old herbalist, Ekene Oluka, allegedly shot and killed a 13-year-old, Obumuneme Oluka, while testing his anti-bullet charm on the deceased.

The incident occurred at Amagu-Uwani, Mgboko, Aku of Igbo-Etiti Local Government Area, Enugu State. It was gathered that the herbalist, now at large, had, at different occasions, successfully tested his charms, which was said to protect against bullets and cutlass, on Obumuneme.

It was learned that the herbalist, after covering Obumuneme’s body with his concoction, fired a shot, which went through his vital organs, leaving him unconscious.

Police Public Relations Officer in the state, Ebere Amaraizu, confirmed the incident in a statement to newsmen, adding that the command had activated a manhunt for the fleeing herbalist.

Amaraizu said:

“The herbalist, Ekene Oluka, from the same kindred with the deceased, had allegedly tested his charms for protection against guns on the deceased. It was further gathered that the suspect had earlier tested that of cutlass on the deceased, which allegedly worked out for him.

“However, this time it did not work, which caused severe injury on the head of the deceased, leaving him unconscious.

“He was confirmed dead as he was being rushed to the hospital. The body was deposited at the hospital mortuary of Attah Memorial Hospital, Aku.

what do you think can be done on the herbalist, a situation like this.

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Recent happenings on child violence, neglect and abuse

A LITTLE BOY ALLEGEDLY DEFILED BY A CHURCH PROPHET

FORBIDDEN........

The prophet identified as Ekene Aboji, has been arrested.

The nan who is popular in Anambra State, was arrested by the Police in the state.
Aboji, a 35-year-old prophet with Jesus Miracle Ministry, Ifite-Awka, is in police net for allegedly defiling a 13-year-old boy after a vigil.
According to Vanuard, Anambra State’s Police Public Relations Officer, ASP Nkeiru Nwode, said in Awka, yesterday, that the alleged defilement of the boy by the prophet occurred on August19 at the Church premises.
Nwode told newsmen that medical report showed that the victim sustained bruises on his neck and anus, adding that investigations were ongoing.
In Nwode’s words: “This is a case of homosexual and unnatural offence; a situation where you have unlawful carnal knowledge of a minor. “The young boy went for the vigil and was asked by the prophet to stay behind since it was late to return home. The boy obliged only to be forced by the suspect, who had carnal knowledge of him through the anus. “When the police got the information, we swung into action and went to the Church to arrest him, but he had absconded.” Nwode said that the mother-in-law of the prophet was arrested; and that the suspect was later arrested on August 25, while attempting to settle the matter without involving police.
She described the incidence as “unfortunate” and advised parents to take proper care of their children.
However, Aboji denied the allegation, saying he only advised the boy against going home after the vigil for his safety.
The suspect said he was surprised to receive information that some irate youths, wielding dangerous weapons, had stormed his house with the allegation that he raped the minor.
On his part, the minor claimed that he woke up from sleep, when the suspected rapist grabbed him by the neck and unbuckled his belt.

It is our right to give appropriate protection to every child under our care or not.

Therefore HHCI implores everyone to fight and protect every child we find in our environs.

Every child is worth fighting for............

This Is Just so Heartbreaking A Facebook user named Pregee Binaibi, who shared the photos, wrote:

This Is Just so Heartbreaking A Facebook user named Pregee Binaibi, who shared the photos, wrote:

“Can u imaging! On my way back from my sister’s place, i passed by the market. It was raining seriously,so much that i was seriously feeling feverish. It was 15minuits past seven and i was rushing home. On my way a man stopped the taxi i was in and begged the driver to help take a little girl who has been under the rain selling groundnuts. She was severing seriously and couldn’t walk. She almost fainted so the people around had to put her in a taxi cos she was walking home under the very heavy rain. Fortunately she was going my way so i offered to drop her at the junction were she lives. Getting there, it was still raining cats and dogs so i took her under a shelf away from the rain. I was curious to know why a parent will expose their child to such.

“I asked her some questions and she said she was 5years, left the house for the market in the morning to sell. I asked her what she ate and she said she drank just garri in the morning. Where is your mum i asked,and she said her mum was home doing nothing. How can parents be so irresponsible? This is child abuse. Exposing this little girl to such. I got her something to eat,and then took her home. Only to discover that she was actually staying with her father’s wife. 

‪‪#‎may‬Godhelpourlittlechildren!”

Jumoke's story of child abuse

I was seven years old, young, naive and knew nothing about sexual practices until we moved from our face me, i slap you, house  to a beautiful three bedroom flat. This house has a total number of four flats occupied by four different families.

The flat next to ours was occupied by an Igbo widow and her six children,and because, mum was always busy and often comes home late, she entrusted us (little sister and myself) into the care of one of the widow's children (Aunty Caroline) whose schoolmistress was next to ours.

Aunty Caroline was a secondary school girl, probably, in senior secondary school then, while i was in primary two. She was responsible for taking us to school and bringing us back, feeding us, helping with our assignments, playing with us, petting my little sister to bed while i wait for mum's arrival with her. Dad on the other hand, was a government worker in Abuja and would always comes home once in a month to check on us.

I grew fond of Caroline and got much more attached to her than i was to mum, probably because, she was the one playing the major roles of a parent to us.

She gradually initiated lesbianism as part of our play. She would act the man while the naive me would act the woman. She would fold my socks and had me wore her brazzziere, then,  she'll fix the folded socks into the brazzziere.  She was always squeezing my young breast or was it the socks rigorously, would touch my private part and lay ontop of me going forth and back. Sometimes, she'll ask me to lay ontop of her and do likewise. She had me swear to death with a bible incase, i try to tell someone about her little secret. And i never told anyone about it until, i clocked 20 when i had to tell my pastor about the past that had always hunted me.

This went on until we eventually moved into our house three years after.  I always thank God i didn't get to become a lesbian because, he retraced my steps and bought me back with his love.

Now that, i am fully grown up and knew she took advantage of my naivety to molest and sexually harassed me, every part of me wants to find her and get her arrested and sued for child abuse and sexual harassment. Only that, my pastor kept  preaching that i accommodate the spirit of forgiveness.

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Do you blame the parents,  Aunty Caro or the little girl?

I sincerely hope all parents and intending parents can learn from this.

The parents of this girl were probably too busy to notice that their little girl was being sexually abused by the one they entrusted with the care of our kids........

How a Five year old girl was brutally raped 3 school boys

The 5-year-old girl brutally raped by 3 school boys

A mother has been left distraught and wants justice after discovering that three school boys r*ped her 5-year-old daughter in the tall grass behind an old school toilet at her primary school last Wednesday.

Now, the mother is demanding answers about how the horrific incident happened right under teachers’ noses. And they also want the older boys who did it jailed.

Speaking about the incident, the girl’s mum (33) said: “My son told me that something happened to his sister at school, but she did not want to talk about it. I thought she might have been bullied, but later realised she was not herself and walked as if it hurt.”

 

The mum said when she bathed her daughter later that evening, she could see her private parts were painful. The mum checked her panties and found bloodstains.

 

“I rushed her to the hospital and the doctors confirmed she had been penetrated.”

According to Daily Sun ZA, the mum reported the matter to the cops. The child then revealed she was raped by three boys. The girl’s dad (40) said he was shocked that this happened right under the teachers’ noses. He said the principal denied that the rape happened on the school premises, but then allegedly set the grass behind the toilets alight.

Dr Naledzani Rasila, spokesman for the Limpopo Education Department, said:“We condemn this incident and will ensure that the law takes its course.” Colonel Ronel Otto confirmed the incident and said the suspects are boys aged eight, nine and 10.

 

“They have been placed under the guidance of social workers as they are minors.”

Recent Happenings on Child abuse in Nigeria

A 27-year-old schoolmistress, Violet, is being interrogated by the Police in Lagos for defiling a female pupil of Light Bearers Private School, located at Iyana-Isashi area of the state.

Vanguard newspaper reports that the mistress, who is the class teacher of the nursery two pupil, reportedly defiled her last Thursday, during school hours.

However, trouble started after the victim’s mother noticed blood stains on her daughter’s pants, when she got home.

The victim’s mother, Evelyn, who spoke to Vanguard, said:

“After my daughter returned from school Thursday last week, I found blood stains on her pants when I wanted to bath her. I was surprised because she is still too young to start menstruating.”

 

“When I asked her what happened, she refused to speak at first because her teacher had threatened her not to. Later, she opened up when I told her that anyone who lies would go to hell.

“She then said it was her Aunty that inserted her fingers inside her bum-bum in class. We reported the case at Iyana-Isashi Police Station.”

Victim’s account

According to the four-year-old girl, (names withheld): 

“My Aunty in school raised my uniform up and put her fingers inside my bum-bum in the class, while others were sleeping.”

“She asked me not to tell my mother or anybody.”

It was learned that the victim was taken to Bisimol Hospital at Graceland Estate, where it was confirmed that her hymen was broken.

Vanguard gathered that the case was reported at Iyana-Isashi Police Division, Friday morning, and the teacher was arrested for interrogation.

HHCI speaks such lady or class teacher, might probably be sick, I would advice before any jail term or punishment, the class teacher , should be screened medically,afterwards face her justice which must prevail  cos of the damage she had caused the little girl.
As for the little girl,she should be under super ultimate care of her loved one's, showing Her the love, care and affection, she needs, to get over the stigma. #happychild #HHCI

Your advice is strongly needed, on how to make the little girl feel happy again.

Let you comments start rolling in.