Friday 23 September 2016

ALIA STORY (A short video clip of what HHCI fight for) movie produced and directed by Nuhu Dalyop films

“There is something about being loved and protected by a parent (or guardian) knowing that I can be loved for who I am, not what I can do, or might one day become. Unfortunately it’s not usually like this in every single situation. From time to time, my parents made mistakes during my childhood. Possibly I was the mistake, or unwanted. But I don’t know. I had every material thing that I could have ever wanted, but there was still something missing, as if I felt distanced from my parents, or misunderstood, in the ways that they treated me. At times, I had felt completely loved and accepted by my parents, but for one reason or another, they were unable to care for me, provide for me, in some ways that would have been very important. Sometimes I feel like I am trying to make up for the experiences in life that were absent when I was a child.” 
- by Jonathan

as parents/caregivers loads of responsibility is embedded on us , for the proper care of our children, make no lose of this responsibilities, to a sure us a brighter tomorrow for our children.
 kindly report a case of any child's cruelty, violence, neglect and abuse.

Thursday 22 September 2016



You are welcome to the proper blog page of HHCICHILDREN,

This program is focused on an integrated approach of rehabilitating and empowering abused children. It involves creating awareness about the prevention of abuse, identifying abused children, understanding the root causes, taking detailed information for each case history (establishing timelines, identifying perpetrators and their relationship to the abused persons.

It involves handling the physical, emotional and psychological trauma associated with abuse, providing intervention and pattern interrupts to reframe the gestalt of Fear, Hurt, Anger, Sadness, Guilt and Shame).

It also entails collaborating with other third parties in the child’s circle of influence, such as parents, guardians, peer-group, mentors etc. in order to develop practical steps that will prevent further abuse, creating safe spaces and a network of trusted professionals whom the affected children may speak with in confidence.

Overall, it is about moving children from being victims to being survivors with the requisite coping and resilience skills. And also engaging, educating and empowering parents and childcare providers on the triggers, signals and proper care of abused children.

Dear friends, it will be our pleasure, for you to direct and link us to victims you know, and trust us for secure privacy and confidentiality.



The Gardens Of Ailana

 From “The Gardens of Ailana”, a fiction largely based around adults still traumatized by having been abused as children, in the name of their parents’ religion.” 

By  Edward Fahey,
“Paulette awoke with an ache in her heart, a grinding in her gut. If there really was a God, why would He have let anyone put a child through that? …
She had survived, but at what cost? She was an itinerant professor, living in her head, not her heart. She had broken away, but abandoned her sister; hadn’t contacted her family in years.
Paulette wondered what she was looking for in these weekend workshops. Absolution wasn’t on the curriculum. What could she possibly hope to accomplish? To be a healer you need to connect with people. You need to touch, and let yourself be touched. And not just with your hands.
Watching these nurses, she envied them their friendships. Here were real buddies truly caring about each other, taking jabs, sharing private jokes and fears. She’d never had that. Even witnessing it from across a room, or a yard, only made her feel that much more lonely.
She got along with people well enough. Agreed with whatever they said, watched their pets, helped them move from one apartment to another. But no one really knew her.
Paulette had never been flush with self-confidence. People took that as humility, but humility isn’t painful and crippling. She hadn’t yet learned that humble and self-destructive aren’t the same thing at all. They’re not even on the same team.
And now here she was at a workshop for healers. Had she come here to heal; or to be healed?
It was one of those warm, charming days that write poems about themselves, and then settle these very softly into your mind. Paulette sensed what felt like a rain-laced breeze stirring her soul; sodden, and yet beautiful; laden with both the dismal, and the promising.

Wednesday 21 September 2016



I was sexually, mentally, emotionally and verbally abused by my father as far back as I can remember until I left home at the age of eighteen. He did many terrible things…some which are too distasteful for me to talk about publicly. But I want to share my testimony because so many people have been hurt, and they need to realize that someone has made it through their struggles so they can have hope.
More than anything, I want you to know and really understand that anyone who has been abused can fully recover if they will give their life completely to Jesus.
What Does “Abuse” Mean?
Abuse is defined as “to be misused, used improperly or to be wasted; to use in such a way as to cause harm or damage; to be treated cruelly.” Any time we are misused or used for a purpose other than what God intended, it’s damaging. And I realize many people can relate to this. For some of you reading this article, I’m just telling your story. You know what it’s like to live with a terrible, shameful secret that is eating you alive.
My father was a mean, controlling and manipulative person for most of his life. He was unpredictable and unstable. As a result, the atmosphere of our home was super-charged with fear because you never knew if what you did would make him mad or not.
We always did what he wanted to do, when he wanted to do it. We watched what he wanted to watch on TV, went to bed when he went to bed, got up when he got up, and ate the meals he wanted us to eat…everything in our home was determined by his moods and what he wanted.
The sexual abuse started when I was very young, and when he decided I was mature enough, he took things even further. From this point until I was eighteen, he raped me at least once a week. My father, whom I was supposed to be able to trust and who was supposed to keep me safe, was the person I came to fear the most.
Feelings of Shame and Loneliness
I was so profoundly ashamed because of this. I was ashamed of me, and I was ashamed of my father and what he did. I was also constantly afraid. There was no place I ever felt safe growing up. I don’t think we can even begin to imagine what kind of damage this does to a child.
At school I pretended I had a normal life, but I felt lonely all the time and different from everyone else. I never felt like I fit in, and I wasn’t allowed to participate in after-school activities, go to sports events or parties or date boys. Many times I had to make up stories about why I couldn’t do anything with my classmates. For so long I lived with pretense and lies.
What I learned about love was actually perversion. My father told me what he did to me was special and because he loved me. He said everything he did was good, but it had to be our secret because no one else would understand and it would cause problems in the family. It became my burden not to let my pain cause problems in our family. And as long as   I kept this secret, I couldn’t get free from the pain of it.
You may be wondering, Joyce, where was God in all of this? He was there. He didn’t get me out of the situation when I was a child, but He did give me the strength to get through it. It’s true my father abused me and didn’t love and protect me the way he should have, and at times it seemed no one would ever help me and it would never end.
But God always had a plan for my life, and He has redeemed me. He has taken what Satan meant for harm and turned it into something good (see Romans 8:28). He has taken away my shame and given me a double reward and recompense (see Isaiah 61:7).
God Can Heal and Restore You
It may seem impossible, but God’s truth has set me free from a life of pretense and lies and has restored my soul. I am living proof that nothing is too hard for God. And no matter what you’ve been through or how bad you hurt, there is hope!

That’s why I’m telling my story. You need to know how good God is and that your struggle is worth it. If you will give your life to Christ and really trust God, you can be completely healed and restored so you can live the life Jesus died for you to have. Don’t give up.
All thanks to a mentor and a teacher , if you have CHRIST, you have ALL.

Please report a case of child abuse, cruelty, and neglect, every child has a right to be HAPPY no matter what.

Tuesday 20 September 2016


Oprah: I was raped when I was only 9

By Jenny Johnson
Behind Oprah Winfrey’s €2bn net worth are stories of pain, struggle, and  eventually triumph.
The media mogul recounted her own experiences with abuse, which included being raped at the age of nine, during an appearance at Ball State University, Indiana, part of a lecture series fellow chat show host David Letterman sponsors at his alma mater.
“Anybody who has been verbally abused or physically abused will spend a great deal of their life rebuilding their esteem,” Winfrey said in front of 3,000 students.
She recounted being physically beaten as a child, saying it was a cultural experience many African- American children went through. She also said was raped and molested.
“You’re an extraordinary person who lived through hell,” said Letterman.
“You were not consumed, you prevailed.”
Winfrey talked about some of the positive aspects of her life: How she learned to read before she was three, how she wished to be Diana Ross, and how she skipped school because she wrote a note to her teacher.
Description of her happy times didn’t last, though.
“I grew up in an environment where children were seen and not heard,” she said.
Letterman asked her to clarify: “You were struck.”
“Oh, I was beaten regularly.”
One such beating, she said, stuck out in vividly in her mind.
“I went to a well to get some water and carry it in a bucket. And I was playing in the water with my fingers, and my grandmother had seen me out the window and she didn’t like it.
“She whipped me so badly that I had welts on my back and the welts would bleed. And then when I put on my Sunday dress, I was bleeding from the welts. And then she was very upset with me because I got blood on the dress.
“So then I got another whipping for getting blood on the dress,” she said.
The Ball State Daily News reports that Letterman took Winfrey through each city she lived in throughout her childhood. At every turn, one story of pain after another thickened the air with emotion.
At 6, Winfrey left her grandmother to live with her mother. While there, the woman in charge of keeping the house forced Winfrey to sleep on the porch. At 9, she was raped.
“He took me to an ice cream shop — blood still running down my leg — and bought me ice cream.”
Winfrey was sexually abused from the ages of 10 to 14, when she found out she was pregnant. It was around this time that her mother took her to a detention home. Too many girls were housed in the home, so Winfrey couldn’t stay. “My mother said, ‘you are getting your ass out of this house’,” she said.
So she went to live with her father, who forbade her from dating, having sex or any deviant activity. He didn’t know she was pregnant when she moved in.
Two weeks after she had the child, it died. It was painful, she said, but both Winfrey and her father saw this as a second chance.
It wasn’t until she was in an acting workshop this summer that her emotions about the situation surfaced again.
“I buried all of my feelings about it.
“I really felt like that baby’s life — that baby coming into the world — really gave me new life. That’s how I processed it for myself.”
Even after she escaped her troubled childhood, Winfrey still faced struggles. When she went to Chicago, her supervisors said they had no chance to compete against talk show host Phil Donahue, whom she would eventually take over in ratings.
Through all of the pain and struggle, Winfrey triumphed. She was thankful, she said, for everything that had happened. “I would take nothing from my journey.
“Everybody’s looking for the same thing,” she said, that sense of ‘was I okay?’ That means, do you hear me and is what I’m saying important to you.’ Everyone is looking for that validation.
“I know what it feels like to not be wanted ... you can use it as a stepping stone to build great empathy for people.”
Winfrey remained humble when Letterman told her he was impressed with her life. “You understand that this is stunning,” he said. “Your human existence is stunning.”
“I never thought of my life as stunning,” she replied. “It’s just my life.”
Letterman didn’t accept her answer, though.
“Most people would use this life as an excuse,” he said. “You were not consumed; you prevailed.”
“I really did believe there was a power greater than myself...” she said, adding that there was nothing in her life that she would ever take back. “Everybody has a story and your story is as equally as valuable and important as my story.
“My story just helped define and shape me as does everybody’s story.”
The queen of talk also shared her biggest regret with The Oprah Winfrey Show. “The one thing I most regret is I wasn’t able to move the needle far enough on abuse in this country,” she said.

She explained that too many people still don’t understand sexual abuse is not just about the act of abuse, but about the misuse of trust and shame that follow.
Never be ashamed of a scar, it simply means you were stronger than you ever tried to hurt you.
Stay strong. 

please report any case of child abuse, cruelty and neglect.

Monday 19 September 2016

Recent Happen On Child Abuse

47-year-old man rapes neighbour’s 18 month old baby in Ikorodu


A 47-year-old man, Emmanuel Magbatie, has been arrested for allegedly defiling an 18-month-old girl (names withheld) in Owutu axis of Ikorodu, Lagos State.
This came barely a week after the Lagos State Government sought compulsory psychiatric test for rape and other domestic violence offenders in the country.

Vanguard gathered that Magbatie, an artisan, who reside in same building as the victim’s parents, defiled the girl last week Wednesday. It was learned that the victim was rushed to Ikorodu General Hospital by her parents for treatment and to ascertain the impact of the act on her. Vanguard investigation revealed that a day after, the victim was taken to Mirabel Centre at Lagos State University Teaching Hospital, LASUTH, Ikeja, for test to help the child overcome issues that may arise after.
Coordinator of Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team, DSVRT, Mrs. Lola Vivour-Adeniyi, who confirmed the act, lamented that the mother of the victim affirmed that the perpetrator was her neighbour. She noted that the victim’s mother visited Mirabel Centre at LASUTH for appropriate medical assistance and to aid the judicial processes. Vivour-Adeniyi noted that DSVRT facilitated the transfer of the case from the Owutu Police Station to the gender desk of the state Police Command in Ikeja last Friday to expedite action on the case.

She noted that the Perpetrator would be detained to allow the completion of the test and issuance of result from Mirabel Centre, after which the case would be charged to court for proper judgment. Effort to speak to the Police Public Relations Officer, SP Dolapo Badmus proved abortive, as she neither responded to calls nor replied text messages sent to her.

Recent happen on Child Abuse and Neglect

Read How Herbalist Killed 13-yr-old While Testing Anti-bullets Charm In Enugu

There were tension, yesterday, when a 26-year-old herbalist, Ekene Oluka, allegedly shot and killed a 13-year-old, Obumuneme Oluka, while testing his anti-bullet charm on the deceased.
The incident occurred at Amagu-Uwani, Mgboko, Aku of Igbo-Etiti Local Government Area, Enugu State. It was gathered that the herbalist, now at large, had, at different occasions, successfully tested his charms, which was said to protect against bullets and cutlass, on Obumuneme.
It was learned that the herbalist, after covering Obumuneme’s body with his concoction, fired a shot, which went through his vital organs, leaving him unconscious.
Police Public Relations Officer in the state, Ebere Amaraizu, confirmed the incident in a statement to newsmen, adding that the command had activated a manhunt for the fleeing herbalist.
Amaraizu said:
“The herbalist, Ekene Oluka, from the same kindred with the deceased, had allegedly tested his charms for protection against guns on the deceased. It was further gathered that the suspect had earlier tested that of cutlass on the deceased, which allegedly worked out for him.
“However, this time it did not work, which caused severe injury on the head of the deceased, leaving him unconscious.

“He was confirmed dead as he was being rushed to the hospital. The body was deposited at the hospital mortuary of Attah Memorial Hospital, Aku.

what do you think can be done on the herbalist, a situation like this.

please report any case of child abuse , cruelty and neglect.

Recent happenings on child violence, neglect and abuse


The prophet identified as Ekene Aboji, has been arrested.
The nan who is popular in Anambra State, was arrested by the Police in the state.
Aboji, a 35-year-old prophet with Jesus Miracle Ministry, Ifite-Awka, is in police net for allegedly defiling a 13-year-old boy after a vigil.
According to Vanuard, Anambra State’s Police Public Relations Officer, ASP Nkeiru Nwode, said in Awka, yesterday, that the alleged defilement of the boy by the prophet occurred on August19 at the Church premises.
Nwode told newsmen that medical report showed that the victim sustained bruises on his neck and anus, adding that investigations were ongoing.
In Nwode’s words: 
“This is a case of homosexual and unnatural offence; a situation where you have unlawful carnal knowledge of a minor. “The young boy went for the vigil and was asked by the prophet to stay behind since it was late to return home. The boy obliged only to be forced by the suspect, who had carnal knowledge of him through the anus. “When the police got the information, we swung into action and went to the Church to arrest him, but he had absconded.” Nwode said that the mother-in-law of the prophet was arrested; and that the suspect was later arrested on August 25, while attempting to settle the matter without involving police.
She described the incidence as “unfortunate” and advised parents to take proper care of their children.
However, Aboji denied the allegation, saying he only advised the boy against going home after the vigil for his safety.
The suspect said he was surprised to receive information that some irate youths, wielding dangerous weapons, had stormed his house with the allegation that he raped the minor.
On his part, the minor claimed that he woke up from sleep, when the suspected rapist grabbed him by the neck and unbuckled his belt.

It is our right to give appropriate protection to every child under our care or not.

Therefore HHCI implores everyone to fight and protect every child we find in our environs.

Every child is worth fighting for............

Thursday 8 September 2016

This Is Just so Heartbreaking A Facebook user named Pregee Binaibi, who shared the photos, wrote:

This Is Just so Heartbreaking A Facebook user named Pregee Binaibi, who shared the photos, wrote:

“Can u imaging! On my way back from my sister’s place, i passed by the market. It was raining seriously,so much that i was seriously feeling feverish. It was 15minuits past seven and i was rushing home. On my way a man stopped the taxi i was in and begged the driver to help take a little girl who has been under the rain selling groundnuts. She was severing seriously and couldn’t walk. She almost fainted so the people around had to put her in a taxi cos she was walking home under the very heavy rain. Fortunately she was going my way so i offered to drop her at the junction were she lives. Getting there, it was still raining cats and dogs so i took her under a shelf away from the rain. I was curious to know why a parent will expose their child to such.

“I asked her some questions and she said she was 5years, left the house for the market in the morning to sell. I asked her what she ate and she said she drank just garri in the morning. Where is your mum i asked,and she said her mum was home doing nothing. How can parents be so irresponsible? This is child abuse. Exposing this little girl to such. I got her something to eat,and then took her home. Only to discover that she was actually staying with her father’s wife. 


Friday 2 September 2016

Jumoke's story of child abuse

I was seven years old, young, naive and knew nothing about sexual practices until we moved from our face me, i slap you, house  to a beautiful three bedroom flat. This house has a total number of four flats occupied by four different families.

The flat next to ours was occupied by an Igbo widow and her six children,and because, mum was always busy and often comes home late, she entrusted us (little sister and myself) into the care of one of the widow's children (Aunty Caroline) whose schoolmistress was next to ours.

Aunty Caroline was a secondary school girl, probably, in senior secondary school then, while i was in primary two. She was responsible for taking us to school and bringing us back, feeding us, helping with our assignments, playing with us, petting my little sister to bed while i wait for mum's arrival with her. Dad on the other hand, was a government worker in Abuja and would always comes home once in a month to check on us.

I grew fond of Caroline and got much more attached to her than i was to mum, probably because, she was the one playing the major roles of a parent to us.

She gradually initiated lesbianism as part of our play. She would act the man while the naive me would act the woman. She would fold my socks and had me wore her brazzziere, then,  she'll fix the folded socks into the brazzziere.  She was always squeezing my young breast or was it the socks rigorously, would touch my private part and lay ontop of me going forth and back. Sometimes, she'll ask me to lay ontop of her and do likewise. She had me swear to death with a bible incase, i try to tell someone about her little secret. And i never told anyone about it until, i clocked 20 when i had to tell my pastor about the past that had always hunted me.

This went on until we eventually moved into our house three years after.  I always thank God i didn't get to become a lesbian because, he retraced my steps and bought me back with his love.

Now that, i am fully grown up and knew she took advantage of my naivety to molest and sexually harassed me, every part of me wants to find her and get her arrested and sued for child abuse and sexual harassment. Only that, my pastor kept  preaching that i accommodate the spirit of forgiveness.

Do you blame the parents,  Aunty Caro or the little girl?

I sincerely hope all parents and intending parents can learn from this.

The parents of this girl were probably too busy to notice that their little girl was being sexually abused by the one they entrusted with the care of our kids........

Gossip Time!!!!...........

By jumoke Yusuf
So, a fourteen years old girl got impregnated, by her twenty- five years old neighbor right under her parents' nose. These parents out of fury, got the mentally derailed paedophile arrested for abusing their daughter sexually.

After the culprit had been in detention for three days, his parents started pleading on behalf of their son and agreed to take full responsibility of the child and her pregnancy. However, the father of the child refused and insisted that their son was going to rot in jail for his actions.

I later got to know that the police force, summoned the parents of the culprit and the victim for a peaceful settlement. The policemen pleaded on behalf of the culprit with the dumbest excuse that their daughter was not raped, the culprit will accept full responsibility of the pregnancy and that,  it is unafrican to get their "INLAW" sent to prison. Like seriously??.... INLAW??

Trust me, i am still finding it hard to believe that the police force who were meant to protect the child's right law as stated in the constitution could reason this way. What a diplomatic way of maintaining law and order in the society!

And to think that, the parents of this girl accepted this disheartening settlement, just made me hate them more.

They failed woefully in parenting their child and denied their child and other teenage girls out there, the right to justice. That paedophile guy, has just been given another chance to victimize other teenage girls out there. #smh

Hiann.... some parents and policemen can fall hands sha... I even heard the culprit is an okada rider and he ran away already....

Gossip over...