ALIA STORY (A short video clip of what HHCI fight for) movie produced and directed by Nuhu Dalyop films

“There is something about being loved and protected by a parent (or guardian) knowing that I can be loved for who I am, not what I can do, or might one day become. Unfortunately it’s not usually like this in every single situation. From time to time, my parents made mistakes during my childhood. Possibly I was the mistake, or unwanted. But I don’t know. I had every material thing that I could have ever wanted, but there was still something missing, as if I felt distanced from my parents, or misunderstood, in the ways that they treated me. At times, I had felt completely loved and accepted by my parents, but for one reason or another, they were unable to care for me, provide for me, in some ways that would have been very important. Sometimes I feel like I am trying to make up for the experiences in life that were absent when I was a child.” 

- by Jonathan

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as parents/caregivers loads of responsibility is embedded on us , for the proper care of our children, make no lose of this responsibilities, to a sure us a brighter tomorrow for our children.

 kindly report a case of any child's cruelty, violence, neglect and abuse.

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WELCOME TO THE HAPPY HEALTHY CHILDREN'S INITIATIVE BLOG PAGE

HELLO FRIENDS,

You are welcome to the proper blog page of HHCICHILDREN,

This program is focused on an integrated approach of rehabilitating and empowering abused children. It involves creating awareness about the prevention of abuse, identifying abused children, understanding the root causes, taking detailed information for each case history (establishing timelines, identifying perpetrators and their relationship to the abused persons.

It involves handling the physical, emotional and psychological trauma associated with abuse, providing intervention and pattern interrupts to reframe the gestalt of Fear, Hurt, Anger, Sadness, Guilt and Shame).

It also entails collaborating with other third parties in the child’s circle of influence, such as parents, guardians, peer-group, mentors etc. in order to develop practical steps that will prevent further abuse, creating safe spaces and a network of trusted professionals whom the affected children may speak with in confidence.

Overall, it is about moving children from being victims to being survivors with the requisite coping and resilience skills. And also engaging, educating and empowering parents and childcare providers on the triggers, signals and proper care of abused children.

Dear friends, it will be our pleasure, for you to direct and link us to victims you know, and trust us for secure privacy and confidentiality.

CHEERS 

HHCICHILDREN

The Gardens Of Ailana

 From “The Gardens of Ailana”, a fiction largely based around adults still traumatized by having been abused as children, in the name of their parents’ religion.” 

By  Edward Fahey,

“Paulette awoke with an ache in her heart, a grinding in her gut. If there really was a God, why would He have let anyone put a child through that? …
She had survived, but at what cost? She was an itinerant professor, living in her head, not her heart. She had broken away, but abandoned her sister; hadn’t contacted her family in years.
Paulette wondered what she was looking for in these weekend workshops. Absolution wasn’t on the curriculum. What could she possibly hope to accomplish? To be a healer you need to connect with people. You need to touch, and let yourself be touched. And not just with your hands.
Watching these nurses, she envied them their friendships. Here were real buddies truly caring about each other, taking jabs, sharing private jokes and fears. She’d never had that. Even witnessing it from across a room, or a yard, only made her feel that much more lonely.
She got along with people well enough. Agreed with whatever they said, watched their pets, helped them move from one apartment to another. But no one really knew her.
Paulette had never been flush with self-confidence. People took that as humility, but humility isn’t painful and crippling. She hadn’t yet learned that humble and self-destructive aren’t the same thing at all. They’re not even on the same team.
And now here she was at a workshop for healers. Had she come here to heal; or to be healed?
It was one of those warm, charming days that write poems about themselves, and then settle these very softly into your mind. Paulette sensed what felt like a rain-laced breeze stirring her soul; sodden, and yet beautiful; laden with both the dismal, and the promising.

JOYCE MEYER STORY (LIFE BEYOND ABUSED)

LIFE BEYOND ABUSE

I was sexually, mentally, emotionally and verbally abused by my father as far back as I can remember until I left home at the age of eighteen. He did many terrible things…some which are too distasteful for me to talk about publicly. But I want to share my testimony because so many people have been hurt, and they need to realize that someone has made it through their struggles so they can have hope.

More than anything, I want you to know and really understand that anyone who has been abused can fully recover if they will give their life completely to Jesus.

What Does “Abuse” Mean?

Abuse is defined as “to be misused, used improperly or to be wasted; to use in such a way as to cause harm or damage; to be treated cruelly.” Any time we are misused or used for a purpose other than what God intended, it’s damaging. And I realize many people can relate to this. For some of you reading this article, I’m just telling your story. You know what it’s like to live with a terrible, shameful secret that is eating you alive.

My father was a mean, controlling and manipulative person for most of his life. He was unpredictable and unstable. As a result, the atmosphere of our home was super-charged with fear because you never knew if what you did would make him mad or not.

We always did what he wanted to do, when he wanted to do it. We watched what he wanted to watch on TV, went to bed when he went to bed, got up when he got up, and ate the meals he wanted us to eat…everything in our home was determined by his moods and what he wanted.

The sexual abuse started when I was very young, and when he decided I was mature enough, he took things even further. From this point until I was eighteen, he raped me at least once a week. My father, whom I was supposed to be able to trust and who was supposed to keep me safe, was the person I came to fear the most.

Feelings of Shame and Loneliness

I was so profoundly ashamed because of this. I was ashamed of me, and I was ashamed of my father and what he did. I was also constantly afraid. There was no place I ever felt safe growing up. I don’t think we can even begin to imagine what kind of damage this does to a child.

At school I pretended I had a normal life, but I felt lonely all the time and different from everyone else. I never felt like I fit in, and I wasn’t allowed to participate in after-school activities, go to sports events or parties or date boys. Many times I had to make up stories about why I couldn’t do anything with my classmates. For so long I lived with pretense and lies.

What I learned about love was actually perversion. My father told me what he did to me was special and because he loved me. He said everything he did was good, but it had to be our secret because no one else would understand and it would cause problems in the family. It became my burden not to let my pain cause problems in our family. And as long as   I kept this secret, I couldn’t get free from the pain of it.

You may be wondering, Joyce, where was God in all of this? He was there. He didn’t get me out of the situation when I was a child, but He did give me the strength to get through it. It’s true my father abused me and didn’t love and protect me the way he should have, and at times it seemed no one would ever help me and it would never end.

But God always had a plan for my life, and He has redeemed me. He has taken what Satan meant for harm and turned it into something good (see Romans 8:28). He has taken away my shame and given me a double reward and recompense (see Isaiah 61:7).

God Can Heal and Restore You

It may seem impossible, but God’s truth has set me free from a life of pretense and lies and has restored my soul. I am living proof that nothing is too hard for God. And no matter what you’ve been through or how bad you hurt, there is hope!

That’s why I’m telling my story. You need to know how good God is and that your struggle is worth it. If you will give your life to Christ and really trust God, you can be completely healed and restored so you can live the life Jesus died for you to have. Don’t give up.

All thanks to a mentor and a teacher , if you have CHRIST, you have ALL.

Please report a case of child abuse, cruelty, and neglect, every child has a right to be HAPPY no matter what.

HAPPY CHILD, HEALTHY CHILD 

Recent happenings on child violence, neglect and abuse

A LITTLE BOY ALLEGEDLY DEFILED BY A CHURCH PROPHET

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The prophet identified as Ekene Aboji, has been arrested.

The nan who is popular in Anambra State, was arrested by the Police in the state.
Aboji, a 35-year-old prophet with Jesus Miracle Ministry, Ifite-Awka, is in police net for allegedly defiling a 13-year-old boy after a vigil.
According to Vanuard, Anambra State’s Police Public Relations Officer, ASP Nkeiru Nwode, said in Awka, yesterday, that the alleged defilement of the boy by the prophet occurred on August19 at the Church premises.
Nwode told newsmen that medical report showed that the victim sustained bruises on his neck and anus, adding that investigations were ongoing.
In Nwode’s words: “This is a case of homosexual and unnatural offence; a situation where you have unlawful carnal knowledge of a minor. “The young boy went for the vigil and was asked by the prophet to stay behind since it was late to return home. The boy obliged only to be forced by the suspect, who had carnal knowledge of him through the anus. “When the police got the information, we swung into action and went to the Church to arrest him, but he had absconded.” Nwode said that the mother-in-law of the prophet was arrested; and that the suspect was later arrested on August 25, while attempting to settle the matter without involving police.
She described the incidence as “unfortunate” and advised parents to take proper care of their children.
However, Aboji denied the allegation, saying he only advised the boy against going home after the vigil for his safety.
The suspect said he was surprised to receive information that some irate youths, wielding dangerous weapons, had stormed his house with the allegation that he raped the minor.
On his part, the minor claimed that he woke up from sleep, when the suspected rapist grabbed him by the neck and unbuckled his belt.

It is our right to give appropriate protection to every child under our care or not.

Therefore HHCI implores everyone to fight and protect every child we find in our environs.

Every child is worth fighting for............