A sales girl raped to death in Delta state

A sales girl, simply identified as “Yellow,” has been bludgeoned to death after she was raped in Delta State.

It was gathered that her assailants attacked her inside the building material store where she worked at Afiesere community, Ughelli, Delta State.

Her lifeless body was discovered at about 5p.m. on Tuesday, by her employer who came to the shop,
following reports that the shop had not been opened for business all day, only to discover her lifeless body.

Giving detail of the incident, a resident of the community who gave his name as Efemena Omokaro, claimed the lifeless body of the victim was discovered naked and mutilated inside the inner room of the shop. He told Vanguard:

“From what we saw on the corpse, she was attacked and killed in the morning by someone close to her. But the manner in which she was attacked calls for concern as such a thing has never happened in this community.”

Confirming the incident, a senior police officer, who spoke in confidence, said police had commenced investigation, having been briefed by the employer of the victim and the land owner of the building where the shop is located.

Culled from tiwasblog.com

How a Five year old girl was brutally raped 3 school boys

The 5-year-old girl brutally raped by 3 school boys

A mother has been left distraught and wants justice after discovering that three school boys r*ped her 5-year-old daughter in the tall grass behind an old school toilet at her primary school last Wednesday.

Now, the mother is demanding answers about how the horrific incident happened right under teachers’ noses. And they also want the older boys who did it jailed.

Speaking about the incident, the girl’s mum (33) said: “My son told me that something happened to his sister at school, but she did not want to talk about it. I thought she might have been bullied, but later realised she was not herself and walked as if it hurt.”

 

The mum said when she bathed her daughter later that evening, she could see her private parts were painful. The mum checked her panties and found bloodstains.

 

“I rushed her to the hospital and the doctors confirmed she had been penetrated.”

According to Daily Sun ZA, the mum reported the matter to the cops. The child then revealed she was raped by three boys. The girl’s dad (40) said he was shocked that this happened right under the teachers’ noses. He said the principal denied that the rape happened on the school premises, but then allegedly set the grass behind the toilets alight.

Dr Naledzani Rasila, spokesman for the Limpopo Education Department, said:“We condemn this incident and will ensure that the law takes its course.” Colonel Ronel Otto confirmed the incident and said the suspects are boys aged eight, nine and 10.

 

“They have been placed under the guidance of social workers as they are minors.”

Recent happens on child abuse in Nigeria 3

The Lagos State Police Command has arrested a man, Ike Iwuanyanwu, for allegedly raping and impregnating his 15-year-old daughter, Priscilla (pseudonym) at Ajao Estate, in the Isolo area of the state.

Punch reports that Iwuanyanwu, who was a company driver living on Anuoluwapo Street in the estate, was arrested on Wednesday after the matter was reported at the Ajao Estate Police Division.

It was learnt that the victim had been taken into custody by the Lagos State Government.

Iwuanyanwu had also allegedly beaten his daughter and wife, warning them not to disclose the
incident to anyone.

It was learnt that Priscilla’s mother, however, informed her family members on Wednesday, who went to the girl’s school to confirm the story from her.

The case was thereafter reported to the state Ministry of Youth and Social Development, which informed the police.

A neighbour of the Iwuanyanwus, who spoke on condition of anonymity, said the victim was the first child of the family, adding that the father had allegedly confessed to the crime.

She said:

 “The man is a driver and the girl is his first child. None of us knew anything about the incident until he was arrested. The only thing we saw was that the man beat up his wife and daughter late in the night on Tuesday.

“The girl was pregnant and the father tried to hide it. It was her school that informed the Lagos State Government.

“The girl confessed that it was her father who raped and impregnated her. The Lagos State Ministry of Youth and Social Development alerted the police and the man was arrested.

“The suspect did not deny that he impregnated the girl. He knew the government was involved and he had no hiding place. We learnt he told the police that his wife did not allow him to have sex with her and he yielded to the temptation of raping his daughter.

“The girl’s mother told her family members, who then went to her school. They did not know the school authorities would get the ministry involved. The matter was also reported to some child rights workers in the Oshodi area.”

Punch’s correspondent learnt that Priscilla’s mother allegedly took the 15-year-old to a place where the pregnancy was aborted.

The pregnancy was said to have been aborted before she was rescued and taken into custody by government officials.

PUNCH Metro learnt that the police arrested Priscilla’s mother on Thursday for involvement in the alleged abortion.

The Coordinator, Domestic and S exual Violence Response Team, Lagos State, Lola Vivour-Adeniyi, said the victim was safe in government’s custody.

She said:

 “Social workers have rescued the victim. She is now at an orphanage provided by the state government. We have also called for the duplicate case file. The girl’s mother was arrested for allegedly aborting the pregnancy. The police may grant her bail on the grounds that she has a four-year-old boy.”

The Lagos State Police Public Relations Officer, SP Dolapo Badmos, confirmed the incident, adding that investigation was ongoing.

She said:

 “The man raped and impregnated his daughter, while the mother also procured abortion for her. The Commissioner of Police, Fatai Owoseni, has ordered that the case be transferred to the gender unit of the command for investigation. The girl is placed in a shelter because we cannot afford to see her go back to that vicinity.”

Recent happens on child abuse in Nigeria 2

LAGOS – Justice Kudirat Jose of Lagos State High Court sitting in Ikeja was, yesterday, told how a commercial driver, Ajayi Gbadegesin, 40, had s exual intercourse with his daughter for 18 months.

Led in evidence by the state prosecutor, Mr. Babatunde Oguntemowo, an importer of laboratory and scientific equipment, Babatope Adamolekun, said: “On May 12, 2014, at about 8a.m, on my way to work at Bello Bus Stop, Iju, Lagos, I saw a 10-year-old girl (name withheld) begging a woman for money.

“I asked her why she was not in school and the victim narrated to me that she lost her mother, was staying with her step-mother in Agege, a suburb of Lagos and needed money to go back.

“She added that her father had been having s ex with her for more than one and half years and that she almost died from the previous night’s experience, as her father had s ex with her more than three times.”

The witness further told the court that when he asked the girl of her father’s whereabouts, she told him that her father’s commercial bus was parked a few meters away from the bus stop and that he had gone to get fuel.

Adamolekun told the court that with the help of four other people, they forced the victim’s father to the police station in a tricycle.

He added: “On getting to Red House Police Station at Iju Ishaga in Agege, I told the police what happened and they assigned a female officer to take the girl to hospital for test and treatment.

“I assisted them with N7,500 that evening when I was showed the result from the hospital that confirmed that her father had s ex with her. The DPO, Ajimote, directed them to charge the matter to court immediately after seeing the report.”

The next morning, Gbadegesin admitted having s ex with his daughter, saying it was the devil’s work.

The witness continued: “Then we chartered a vehicle to Abule-Egba Magistrate’s Court, where I was called as a witness, and the Magistrate ordered that the girl be taken to Idi-Araba for rehabilitation, while her father was remanded in Kirikiri Prison.”

Justice Jose adjourned the matter till October 6 for continuation of trial.

DON'T TURN YOUR FACE

“Don’t turn your face away.
Once you’ve seen, you can no longer act like you don’t know.
Open your eyes to the truth. It’s all around you.
Don’t deny what the eyes to your soul have revealed to you.

Now that you know, you cannot feign ignorance.
Now that you’re aware of the problem, you cannot pretend you don’t care.
To be concerned is to be human.
To act is to care.” 

“YOUR ABUSIVE PARTNER DOESN’T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HIS ANGER; HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR ANGER.

One of the basic human rights he takes away from you is the right to be angry with him. No matter how badly he treats you, he believes that your voice shouldn’t rise and your blood shouldn’t boil. The privilege of rage is reserved for him alone. When your anger does jump out of you—as will happen to any abused woman from time to time—he is likely to try to jam it back down your throat as quickly as he can. Then he uses your anger against you to prove what an irrational person you are. Abuse can make you feel straitjacketed. You may develop physical or emotional reactions to swallowing your anger, such as depression, nightmares, emotional numbing, or eating and sleeping problems, which your partner may use as an excuse to belittle you further or make you feel crazy.” 

MEDINA STORY ON HOW SHE WAS SEXUALLY ABUSED AND HOW SHE RECOVERED

My biological dad was always in and out of prison and my stepdad died when I was 6. I don't really remember things being bad, but things changed massively when I was 13. My dad got his own place and I started staying there at the weekends. He only had a one bedroom flat so I used to stay in his bed with him. That's when the abuse started. He would touch me and put his hand up my top. I remember him touching my back and going further down.

The abuse continued for about 3 or 4 months. It stopped when I told my mum he'd hurt me. I didn't say what he'd done but she stopped me having contact with him straight away. I was so scared and confused. It changed my life for ages. It took me four or five months to actually tell my mum exactly what had happened. We reported my dad to the police but there wasn't enough evidence to convict him. The police basically accused me of lying and I remember crying and mum asking them to leave.

It was a relief to get things out in the open with my mum, like something had lifted. But I couldn't sleep on my own for the next year. My mum had to sit on the end of my bed and talk to me until I went to sleep. In the year that followed, I began self-harming and I tried to kill myself three times. A month or two after my first overdose, my mum organized for me to see someone from a local child sexual exploitation service. We didn't talk about serious stuff, just what was bothering me at the time like getting bullied at school or friends falling out. We didn't talk much about what had happened with my dad.

I was referred to a mental health service for young people too. They did try to help me but it just wasn't the right support. It was a scary place. I remember it looking like a mental hospital. They talked to me like I was a child. I refused to talk because they wanted me to speak about things at 13 when I didn't have the words to express how I was feeling.

By this point I had started misbehaving. I was drinking and I was smoking weed every day. I remember the night before my 14th birthday, I went out and I got hammered. I was sick everywhere. I went home the next day, hung-over and looking a state. My mum had all my presents laid out for me and my cake. I can picture her face in my head now. She was happy that I was alright but she was gutted. It was horrible and I still feel guilty about it now.

I started staying out overnight. I sometimes didn't go home for days or weeks. I was raped twice. I remember being in the bath and scrubbing my skin to try and make myself feel clean. I've got blotches all over me from where I've ripped my skin off.

I started seeing a counsellor called Ayooluwa* when I was 16. She was great and she changed my life. She just made me see everything differently, see myself differently. She helped me to start thinking of myself as a young woman who has the right to say no rather than a vulnerable little girl.

When I was 17, I took coke heavily for 2 or 3 months. There were so many times when something would switch in my head and I would get angry. I remember coming home covered in blood and I couldn't remember why. After coming off the drugs I had so much guilt because I'd hurt so many people. Angela made me realize that it was ok and that good people do bad things.

Ayooluwa gave my life some worth. If I hadn't had her support I wouldn't be where I am now. I told her everything that I'd done and she told me that I probably just needed to get some anger out. Ayooluwa helped me to accept the things that I can't change and do what I need to do to make it ok.

Medina's Advice

I have a normal life now. I'm about to leave secondary school now and I am awaiting university. I'm strong for it all now and I'm not letting those men define the way I am, or turn me bad. Some days are better than others but I've never been so content. Life is just better and I want to help other people now – that's my main goal.

For other young people I'd always recommend counselling. If I'd received support earlier, then it might have stopped me putting myself into risky situations. I think there needs to be more support out there, especially free support for young people who can't afford to pay. It's so important for young people to get the right help early on. If they don't, they can get stuck in a downward spiral that can be really hard to come back from. If I'd not had to wait so long then I might not have turned to drugs and things might have been different.

Recent Happenings on Child abuse in Nigeria

A 27-year-old schoolmistress, Violet, is being interrogated by the Police in Lagos for defiling a female pupil of Light Bearers Private School, located at Iyana-Isashi area of the state.

Vanguard newspaper reports that the mistress, who is the class teacher of the nursery two pupil, reportedly defiled her last Thursday, during school hours.

However, trouble started after the victim’s mother noticed blood stains on her daughter’s pants, when she got home.

The victim’s mother, Evelyn, who spoke to Vanguard, said:

“After my daughter returned from school Thursday last week, I found blood stains on her pants when I wanted to bath her. I was surprised because she is still too young to start menstruating.”

 

“When I asked her what happened, she refused to speak at first because her teacher had threatened her not to. Later, she opened up when I told her that anyone who lies would go to hell.

“She then said it was her Aunty that inserted her fingers inside her bum-bum in class. We reported the case at Iyana-Isashi Police Station.”

Victim’s account

According to the four-year-old girl, (names withheld): 

“My Aunty in school raised my uniform up and put her fingers inside my bum-bum in the class, while others were sleeping.”

“She asked me not to tell my mother or anybody.”

It was learned that the victim was taken to Bisimol Hospital at Graceland Estate, where it was confirmed that her hymen was broken.

Vanguard gathered that the case was reported at Iyana-Isashi Police Division, Friday morning, and the teacher was arrested for interrogation.

HHCI speaks such lady or class teacher, might probably be sick, I would advice before any jail term or punishment, the class teacher , should be screened medically,afterwards face her justice which must prevail  cos of the damage she had caused the little girl.
As for the little girl,she should be under super ultimate care of her loved one's, showing Her the love, care and affection, she needs, to get over the stigma. #happychild #HHCI

Your advice is strongly needed, on how to make the little girl feel happy again.

Let you comments start rolling in.

Ritual Abuse: What it is, Why it Happens, and How to Help

And Marget exclaim about Ritual Abuse

“Betrayal is too kind a word to describe a situation in which a father says he loves his daughter but claims he must teach her about the horrors of the world in order to make her a stronger person; a situation in which he watches or participates in rituals that make her feel like she is going to die. She experiences pain that is so intense that she cannot think; her head spins so fast she can't remember who she is or how she got there.

All she knows is pain. All she feels is desperation. She tries to cry out for help, but soon learns that no one will listen. No matter how loud she cries, she can't stop or change what is happening. No matter what she does, the pain will not stop. Her father orders her to be tortured and tells her it is for her own good. He tells her that she needs the discipline, or that she has asked for it by her misbehavior. Betrayal is too simple a word to describe the overwhelming pain, the overwhelming loneliness and isolation this child experiences.

As if the abuse during the rituals were not enough, this child experiences similar abuse at home on a daily basis. When she tries to talk about her pain, she is told that she must be crazy. "Nothing bad has happened to you;' her family tells her Each day she begins to feel more and more like she doesn't know what is real. She stops trusting her own feelings because no one else acknowledges them or hears her agony. Soon the pain becomes too great. She learns not to feel at all. This strong, lonely, desperate child learns to give up the senses that make all people feel alive. She begins to feel dead.
She wishes she were dead. For her there is no way out. She soon learns there is no hope.

As she grows older she gets stronger. She learns to do what she is told with the utmost compliance. She forgets everything she has ever wanted. The pain still lurks, but it's easier to pretend it's not there than to acknowledge the horrors she has buried in the deepest parts of her mind. Her relationships are overwhelmed by the power of her emotions. She reaches out for help, but never seems to find what she is looking for The pain gets worse. The loneliness sets in. When the feelings return, she is overcome with panic, pain, and desperation.

She is convinced she is going to die. Yet, when she looks around her she sees nothing that should make her feel so bad. Deep inside she knows something is very, very wrong, but she doesn't remember anything. She thinks, "Maybe I am crazy.”
― Margaret Smith.

Awareness program on child abuse

REPORT ON THE OUTREACH PROGRAM HELD ON THE 25TH MAY 2016
TITLED: CREATING THE AWARENESS OF CHILD ABUSE AND NEGLECT ON EVERY CHILD
TIME: 10:30AM
MEMBERS: FATOYE OLURANTI
OLATUNJI ADEBOWALE
IDOWU BOLUWATIFE

We arrived at Nawarudeen Primary school, Mowe Ogun state, along Lagos/Ibadan expressway at 10:25am, heading to the Head teacher’s office, we were welcomed and she introduced us to the pupils, we would be discussing with, which were the primaries 4 and 5.
They all stood up to greet HHCI members, and quietly seated to hear from us, thereby Ranti introduced HHCI (Happy Healthy Children Initiative) to the pupils telling them the purpose of their coming , which was to  enlighten and creating the awareness of child abuse to the children. Ranti therefore asked the pupils “who is a child”? , and they all answered and said they were children, Ranti applauded the pupils, and further asked for the meaning of abuse, a pretty young girl by name OLAWALE  TITILOPE , stood up to answer, saying “abused means when you tell someone that He/ She  is  STUPID”, the pupil applauded her for answering the question.
Ranti continued to discuss with the pupil in a simple language of an article she prepared for the teachers on child abuse and neglect, saying “The term "child abuse" refers to the violence, mistreatment or neglect that a child or adolescent may experience while in the care of someone they either trust or depend on, such as a parent, sibling, other relative, caregiver or guardian” after a brief talk with the pupils, she called on a member of HHCI, whose name is OLATUNJI ADEBOWALE, he continued with the discussion citing five categories of child abuse making examples and cracking  jokes to arrest the pupils’ concentration more on how a child can be abused, maltreated and neglected, both in the category of abused namely: physical, sexual, psychological, emotional abuse and neglect.
After Debo’s brief discussion with the pupils, Ranti came back to ask the pupils, how did they enjoy the talk:
Observation: Titilope was delighted and said that she was now convinced that child abuse is more than calling somebody stupid.
Question: A boy named Kareem asked that what could be his reaction to his guardian when he was made to overwork domestically like washing clothes that is more than ones capability as child.
Response: HHCI replied “meet with your guardian politely and tell him/her its beyond your capacity to wash all the clothes at once, you would do the washing little by little, till you finish washing all.
Question: Another boy, Juwon sought HHCI advice on how he could cope with his Aunt (uncle’s wife) who used to neglect him for her children (i.e. not treating them equal as children), Juwon went further to say that “she doesn’t like to have him relate with his cousin”, that felt so bad.
Response: HHCI advised him to engage himself into doing things that makes him happy, Ranti further asked him what do you enjoy doing?, then he replied by saying he likes to draw (comics drawing), then Ranti said he should engage himself into making a story with comic drawing, and that after she would help in the publication, and he was happy with a smile on his face.
Ranti asked the pupils if they will love to have HHCI at their school once again, the pupil crowdedly answered a big YES

CONCLUSION
Ranti also make a big notice to the pupil “that if they notice any abused of any kind from their loved ones or rather they are feeling  unhappy, they should feel free to discuss with their teachers, through their teachers to HHCI, and that HHCI will be happy to help them feel Happy again
A little token of pens was distributed to the pupils and their teachers, and an article on creating the awareness of child abused and neglect on every child.
RESULT
On the 26th of May 2016, the school manager called HHCI to show her appreciation on their visit to the school.